Huh. I'm glad you're being more social. As an introvert I'm not too social but dw about what others say about you (either to you or to others) unless it's false, then that's a problem and unless it's harassment or illegal (which you'd want to report if so) i would take it straight to them and explain it (not being rude bc that could make you be the same that they were to you) and sternly ask them to stop telling lies about you, and if they deny it or retaliate don't react negatively to it or retaliate or be defensive back but let it be on their own heads that they're wrong and won't admit it. They'll be exposed in time just like the Bible says, specifically Jesus, that all that is hidden will be brought to light and all that is said in the dark will be exposed. As you live out your life and have kept things hidden that you don't want people to know because it's embarrassing or a wrongdoing that will devastate relationships (now i have no advice when it comes to that and I'll likely not want to give it anyway 'cuz that's your ordeal and not my business) but it'll be uncovered eventually no matter how hard you try to keep it hidden. :(
